Tell me about yourself?
The name is Javier van Heckers☺. I am 27 years old, specialized in digital marketing, born and raised in the Netherlands and currently living in Curacao (the Caribbean). I moved to Curacao in 2014 together with my lovely girlfriend. However, we will be moving back to the Netherlands by the end of 2017 to pursuit bigger and better goals. I would describe myself as ambitious but not too serious, curious but not nosy and very spiritual but definitely not religious.
Who has been the biggest influence on your life and why?
My mother. When I was growing up, she always believed in me and always supported my dreams. She taught me a lot and always was there for me when I needed some guidance or advice.
What are the most important lessons you’ve learned in life?
I love this question because I love to talk substance, so let’s talk!
Here we go:
- Don’t get comfortable. Life is all about growing and if you want to grow, you have to embrace discomfort. Getting into shape means feeling pain in your body. Working on yourself means facing your emotional demons. Following your dreams, means taking some leaps. When you are comfortable, there is a very big chance you are standing still. Make discomfort your best friend.
- Love yourself unconditionally. Everyone is pushing their own agenda in this world. People and corporations would love to tell you how to dress, what to do, how to live, how to behave, what to say etc. A lot of people get lost in these ‘guidelines’ and they start to believe that if they don’t follow them, they as individuals have less value than others. This is a sad and scary thing because it causes them to love themselves less. If you want to be the best version of yourself with a happy state of mind, you should always love yourself, even when you screw up or you’re not ‘amounting’ to expectations of whoever. You are awesome!
- Don’t overthink. I love this quote from Lao Tzu, it goes ‘If you are depressed, you live in the past. If you are anxious, you live in the future. But if you are at peace, you live in the present’. The present is all you have, always. Overthinking tends to take your mind to the past or future for an unnecessary amount of time. Don’t exchange what you have for what was or what might be. It’s a bad deal. Accept what you can’t change, stay positive, don’t wait for perfection, put things into perspective and be grateful.
What accomplishment are you most proud of?
That I moved to a foreign country due to an amazing job offer just a couple of days after receiving the news that I achieved my bachelor’s degree. I got a job offer in the Caribbean during the last months of my thesis. The deadline for me moving away was already set, so rounding up my thesis and graduating was a race against the clock. With hard work and persistence, it all worked out.
Whenever you come to a setback what do you for your comeback?
I make sure to get myself in the right state of mind and then take action. Meaning I accept the setback and I analyze what I could have done better. Sometimes I find it hard to look at what I could have done better or different in a specific situation. Luckily my girlfriend is always there to hold the mirror so we can both dive into my personal reflection and she can give me some honest and neutral feedback. After analysis, I work out a new plan and I go for it, again and again until I am pleased with the result.
If you were writing the story of your life, how would you divide it into chapters?
The first chapter would be from me being born until the age of 11. At this age, my parents split up and that had some impact on me. So the second chapter would be from the age of 12 up until the age of 19. During this period I was very driven and creative. I made music, I (break) danced, went to school and I had a lot of fun with my friends. The last chapter would be from my 20th up until now (currently 27). I met my current girlfriend when I was 19/20 and we have been chasing dreams together ever since.
What do you know now that you wish you’d known when you were young?
Don’t be too hard for yourself. I was never satisfied with my achievements and I never celebrated them. I was always looking for the next achievement not giving myself enough credits for the goals I reached. Definitely something that I am going to teach my children (yes I want kids☺)
How do you define a “good life” or a “successful life”?
Having a life with a sense of purpose. Adding value and meaning to other people’s lives. Being a creator on any level, as long as it drives my passion. Uplifting people and bringing out the best in them.
Do you think a person needs to first overcome serious setbacks or challenges to be truly successful?
No, I don’t. I do think that overcoming serious setbacks pushes people to get in a state of mind of a creator so they eventually can be successful (in their own way). To truly overcome serious setbacks one must be strong, have faith and create (mental) conditions in which they can be happy and find peace. These are all traits that attract ‘success’.
If you had the power to solve one and only one problem in the world, what would it be and why?
The scarcity of food and clean drinking water. We are way too smart and developed to be living in a world where there are millions of people worrying about food and water every day. Greed is the source of this imbalance, I believe the world has enough to offer for anyone in it.
How have your dreams and goals changed your life?
My dreams and goals give my life purpose. They get me out of bed in the morning and give me excitement for the future. I do believe my dreams and goals will change over time. However, I will always have dreams and goals to chase. My dreams and goals change my life in the sense that they give me hope, hope gives me energy and energy make me take action. In a way, you can say, they motivate me to set things into motion and therefore changing me from an observer to a creator.
What do you do for fun?
I like to read, go to the beach, watch awesome shows on Netflix and enjoy quality conversation with cool people.
What’s your favourite book and why?
The 48 laws of power. I am currently working my way through the audio version online. Even though I am not done with it yet, this book already gave me so much. Very powerful stuff.
How did you decide what you wanted to do with your life? How do you feel about that choice?
I currently work as an online marketing specialist and I have to say, it kinda came across my path. I really like the digital marketing field due to the constant digital innovations and new marketing possibilities. That being said, eventually, I would like to do more with my life on a humanitarian level. I am still figuring out how this is going to be part of my life but it is definitely something that would give me the ultimate feeling of fulfilment.
What do you think are your three best qualities?
My loyalty, my patience and my open-mindedness.
What are you working on to become a better YOU?
I am currently working on being a more attentive person towards others. I am very self- aware which is good because it makes me better in listening to my feeling. However, the downside is, I sometimes tend to forget about other people and what is important for them because I am stuck in my own head. Definitely, something I can improve which will make me a better ME.
Do you have any special sayings or expressions?
There are a couple of sayings I love and even made them my mantras because they are that good.
‘Dum Vivimus Vivamus’.
It means ‘while we live, let us live’. Such a good quote that reminds me to just live my life and go with the flow.
‘Truth is stranger than fiction, but it is because fiction is obliged to stick to possibilities; Truth isn’t’.
I love this one because it states how strange the truth (reality) really is. You can pretend to know what life’s all about because it helps you sleep at night, but to be honest…you know nothing Jon snow☺!
What place does religion have in your life?
As stated in my introduction, I am not a religious person but a spiritual person. I believe in frequencies, vibrations, a world of energy and the illusion of matter. I believe that there indeed is a defined power that operates as the Alpha and the Omega. However, I don’t try to label it with religious terms.
If you could possess one superhuman power, what would it be?
The correct answer here would be something along the line of ‘the ability to cure cancer’ or ‘the ability to create world peace’. But since it is a hypothetical one, I am going to pick the ability to fly, simply because it literally has been a childhood dream of mine. And don’t worry, if for some reason I will meet a genie that can grant me one wish, I’ll pick something that will benefit us all☺.
Who was the biggest influence on your career?
The first Managing Director I worked for. She gave me the opportunity to start my career abroad and she taught me a lot of valuable lessons along the way.